|
CONVENTIONAL COUPLE |
SPIRITUAL
COUPLE |
|
Closed
process
The couple motivations aren't clarified. For the most of the times, the
couple is modelling having a standard pattern established by the others and
not after the self-inner standards. It is preferred the security, the
stability, the transformation is avoided. That is why the individual
evolution is very slow. Everybody tries hard to be according the other one's
image of him (her); he (she) isn't acting in a free way. He (she) doesn't do
what he (she) feels. |
Opened
process
It is clearly set up the spiritual purpose, the common objectives that
constitute the foundation of the relationship. The mutual recognition of the
other one's freedom. The both lovers honestly and openly express what are
they, what do they want and what are their targets. The transformations are
accepted, there is no jealousy, and this is the reason for that the
individual evolution is very fast. |
|
Doubt
The closed process provokes a less of self-confidence and a less of
confidence in the other. You are attached, you feel dependent. You need the
other for putting you in value. |
Trust
An opened process makes each of the lovers aware of their independence. You
don't try to change the other one, you accept him/her as he/she is. You help
him/her by your own presence. |
|
Competition
It appears the fight for powers (who gives orders?) and authority, conflicts
of parts. The own interest comes first. The ego has the power. |
Understanding
Each lover has the same "rank", the same responsibilities. Each of them
respects the other one's "space" and his (her) desire to be together or
alone. Change of parts: you are here to help the other one to advance. |
|
Dependency
You have different point of view that you want to impose. You feel alone and
unfulfilled. You are afraid of being abandoned. |
Autonomy
Each of them is self-sufficient, not dependent on the other one. The love
confers safety. Each lover is opened to the other's desire of spiritual
evolution. So, there is a good understanding of the "tools" used by everyone
for spiritual development, (spiritual practice, spare time, travels, etc.).
This drives to spontaneity and harmony. |
|
Conditions
The dependency provokes conditional exchanges. The relations are lead by
rules, contract, and compels. The base of the relationship is the idea of
truck: you offer if you get something in return, the attitudes are
premeditated. Manipulation. |
Liberty
Autonomy provokes tolerance, detachment, and abandon. There is no longer the
case of domination or possessiveness. They spontaneously explore together
the joyful adventure of the aware evolution in two. Happiness, mutual
confidence, harmony. |
|
Boredom
The lovers create rules because they don't enjoy any more spending the time
together. They enter in a routine that destroys the creativity and the
inventiveness. Each of them begins to think that the other one is his (her)
cause of unhappiness and this is the reason for that she (he) must defend
from the other one. |
Creativity
Constantly, the lovers play the loving game. This generates good mood.
Spontaneity, inspiration, amusement. Spontaneous change of parts and duties.
There are invented new ways of love. You feel really good and happy
together. |
|
Insecurity
You have the feeling that something is missing, you do not exactly what is
it, and you have feelings of fear, instability and culpability. You avoid
the other one or you reproach him (her) a certain behaviour that upset you.
You want to make a family hopping to find out a solution for the problem and
to find more stability. |
Security
The profound love makes the stability feeling to appear. It can appear the
wish of having a family, not because the lovers are afraid of losing one
another, but in order to fulfil their spiritual purpose. The spiritual
merging of the two lovers induces a superior security feeling. |
|
Sensation
of couple failure
The impotence of changing the flow of events. Each lover begins to
undervalue one another. It can appear resentments that can provoke even
unbalance. Desperateness. You have the feeling that is nothing you can do.
You see no way to bring back the harmony in the couple. |
Perfect
love
Feeling of abnegation and devotion. The mutual devotion awakes the divine
essence in both lovers and the mutual abnegation generates the good mood of
the lovers. You exist for love. The love becomes cosmic so that you feel
that God is the One who loves you throughout your lover. |
|
Separation
The only solution is the separation, the divorce. You experience the
desperateness and the loneliness, that could yet be the opportunity of a
transformation, of a possible discovering of the autonomy and freedom. |
Unity
The relationship is the opportunity to achieve the spiritual wedding or in
other words the spiritual union of the two lovers. The lovers discover the
primary love - the love between two archetypes, the male archetype and the
female one. This love leads the lovers to UNITY, divine grace and blessing.
They fulfil the ideal of any couple which is the discovering of the UNITY or
in other words of the SUPREME REALITY. |
