Strengthen your sexual muscles
The ancient masters of
lovemaking from India
and China viewed the human body-mind "mechanism" as a bucket full of energy with
holes in the bottom where life energy leaked out. These holes are the urethral
opening and anal opening and, in the woman, the vaginal opening also. It was
believed that when the sexual muscles were strengthened through special
exercises they sealed the bottom of the bucket.
The Eastern sexual exercises that we are about to present in the following lines
were developed in cultures that placed less emphasis on the genital
orgasm. The development of sexual muscles
represents a way to achieve, intensify, prolong and control the pleasure in both
sexes and also contributes to your growth as a human being.
What kind of sexual muscle do you have to strengthen?
Before you start sexual muscle squeezing, it is most important that you locate
the exact muscle involved. The anatomical name of this muscle is the
pubococcygeus muscle. It's called the PC muscle.
How do you find your PC muscle?
It stretches between your legs, from your genitals and your anus. It is part of
the pelvic floor in both sexes.
The standard way to find your PC muscle is to stop and start as you urinate. Do
this several times. Women need to keep the legs open wide so that the muscles in
the buttocks don't add confusing signals. Another way is to pretend to hold back
a bowel movement and tighten anal muscles or you can try the direct approach.
Insert a well-lubricated (use vegetable oil) finger into the anus and squeeze.
You will feel the anal muscles as well as the PC muscle. Women can gently place
their index finger or middle finger in the vagina and squeeze. The vagina will
grasp the finger, perhaps quite firmly. It may even push them out. The PC muscle
itself can be felt in the vagina as a ribbed muscle about one and a half inches
in.
How do you strengthen your PC muscle?
Once you get the hang of it, you can do squeezes writing, reading, walking,
sitting, working watching TV, listening to music and so on. You may find that a
tightening of the muscles in the stomach and thighs happens no matter what you
do at first. This is common. But after the first few days or weeks, when you
have completely isolated the muscle, these extra contractions should be hardly
noticeable.
Once you have definitely found the PC muscle, start with quick or short
squeezes. Contract the muscle 30 times at about one a second or faster as one
session. Do two sessions your first day. Gradually build up to 100 twice a day.
When you can comfortably do 100 quickie contractions twice a day, add sustained
or long movements.
Long squeezes are simple. Instead of holding the muscle contraction for a
count of one, hold it for a count of three. Start with 30 of these per session,
two sessions a day. Build up to 100 each session twice a day. Take your time.
Avoid straining. The PC muscle is just like any other muscle. If you overdo it,
it will become sore.
Make the contractions focused and concentrate on the physical sensations. You
may find this easier if you close your eyes. Learn to relax between
contractions. Relaxation is just as important to your control as the contraction
itself. If a man learns how to relax the sexual muscles during intercourse, he
can prolong the lovemaking as long as he wants. In other words, the man will
control the sexual energy and he will be able to make love for hours without
having ejaculatory orgasm.
Use the power of imagination
You can use precise mental images to guide the strengthening of your PC muscle.
Mind, energy and body are intimately connected. So, use the power of your mind
to strengthen the sexual muscles.
Women can imagine that their vagina is a tunnel made up of several muscular
bands that can contract or expand at will. These circular bands of muscle are
seen growing in size and strength with each contraction.
Men can imagine that the PC muscle is a steel cable running between their legs,
which they can tighten or loosen at, will. The steel cable should be seen as
growing thicker and stronger with each repetition.
Use positive affirmation
Don't be surprised if the exercises stimulate erotic feelings while you are
doing them. The contractions of the sexual muscles produce the growth of sexual
energy. This is the reason for which these exercises have to be accompanied by
other methods for sublimating the sexual energy. Otherwise, you will become
irritated, nervous and irascible. A simple method is to use positive affirmation
during each contraction. With a quick PC muscle squeeze say a short positive
affirmation such as "Love" or "Beauty". With a long PC muscle squeeze you can
say a longer affirmation such as "Love is my religion".
Benefits of the PC muscle exercises:
-
Make you
get more in touch with your genitals and sexual feelings
-
Improve
the blood flow to these areas (which can be quite healing in itself)
-
Make
orgasm voluntary
-
Eliminate
frigidity
