Healing with
Integrity
Tips for New Reiki Healers
The most important
aspects of working as a healer are spiritual integrity, the ability to be a
clear channel, and the release of ego. For those who began to work as healers
for the first time around 1997 or early 1998 -- you’ve been working in highly
accelerated energies from the get-go. These tips may be helpful:
1. Always get
permission. The only person you have authority to change is yourself.
You must respect the boundaries of those who seek your help, even if it means
leaving them with their pain and/or illness. Sometimes, healing is a very
gradual process. A person's level of faith and trust will vary, and must be
respected.
In particular, if
God calls you to service in the Inner Child area, building trust is paramount
and may require working with someone many times before any significant shift
occurs. When you sense a wall or boundary, ask the body to release. If there
continues to be resistance, hold still and send your acceptance. Ask again. If
there is repeated resistance to release, it is my firm opinion that you must
allow the person to keep the pain, cellular memory, illness, etc.
2. Release the
ego. At the point where you clearly see imbalance but cannot secure
permission to facilitate release, the ego often struggles. Know that your
personality self does nothing. It is The Highest Self-Spirit moving through the
little self that creates healing. Godforce energy can transform even terminally
diseased tissue to perfect health in the twinkling of an eye. There are no
limits to that energy. Therefore, understand that there is no failure. The
person you work with must decide to heal. Until then, you offer the energy but
allow them to set the pace.
3. Insist on
Co-Creative healing. Choose not to work with anyone who is unwilling
to be an active participant in their own healing. It is not the healer's place
to take away a person's physical lessons. The physical body is a subtle,
multifaceted signaling device--every illness, accident, and emotional
disturbance is like a warning light within the body human. If you, as a healer,
take away the symptoms without generating awareness of the cause, the person
will most likely experience only temporary relief and the condition will
reappear. Refuse to be in the aspirin business, unless you want to see the same
people over and over, for years, and perhaps never assist them in any permanent
healing or progressive growth.
4. Keep
yourself grounded and connected to Source. Beginning healers
commonly experience a period of challenge associated with taking on the
feelings, pain or symptoms of the person with whom they have just worked. For
example, you might work with someone who has a migraine headache and notice that
your own head hurts for hours afterwards. I call this "temporary sensory
transference", and there are several reasons it may occur:
a. Personal
blocks --
Nothing can attach to you, or cause any adverse reaction, unless you have a
similar block within your own body. Because none of us walk in total balance at
all times, it is always possible to be enough out of balance in some aspect that
you are unable to allow the releases of the other person to flow through your
physical frame without the energy attaching to (and magnifying) your own
struggle. It is never the other person's fault, but your responsibility, and it
is always an opportunity for you to heal something within yourself. However, it
is never a good idea to work with another if you know you are in a strong
personal state of imbalance.
b. Lack of
grounding -- The Earth has a vibrational energy
that "grounds" the physical body, but it is sometimes necessary to make
conscious effort, to maintain that connection. When working in the higher
energies, you must remember that you still have a third-dimensional form to
consider. If you don't ground the energies, they can stay in your body.
c. Taking up
the cross -- As Spirit Workers, we can make the
conscious choice to bear part of another's physical burden for a time, in our
own bodies. It is an act of compassionate empathy. It is similar to the story in
the bible, where Christ falls down under the weight of his cross. A man is taken
from the crowd, to carry the cross for a time. Sometimes, we take up the cross
of another, until they are able to bear it again just long enough for them to
reach that point of death/rebirth, as them man did for Christ. It is still their
cross.
d. Absence of
Source connection
-- This is another area where ego causes problems. Odd as it seems, you may
forget that you have access to unlimited qi energy. The nervous personality
self may feel as if it's all up to you. If you attempt to heal another,
utilizing only your mind or your own devices, you will exhaust yourself within
three days.
Always remember
that you are not alone. Set your intent to give yourself over to Spirit, being
guided moment to moment and trusting the guidance implicitly. For those who are
overly analytical (I fit this category and speak from personal experience), it
may be difficult to act without knowing exactly what is being done. Sometimes,
you will have no idea what is happening at a cellular level, with the
partner-in-healing on your table. You'll be asked to work by faith, and some of
the things you are prompted to say may make no sense to your logical mind. Yet,
they will be the words the other person most needs to hear. Let the energy flow
through, without editing or control.
There is a simple
exercise for grounding and connecting to Source, that I utilize in my work as a
healer. I envision roots growing out of the soles of both feet and extending
down into the Earth. I allow the roots to grow downward, until I feel them hit
the Earth's core. I can actually hear the sound, as the roots hit center. Then,
I invite that energy up through my body and out my crown toward the sky. I allow
the energy to flow until I feel it reach Universal qi For me, this is usually
signified by a brilliant burst of sunlight. Finally, I allow that energy to work
it's way down through my body, mingling with the Earth energies to a point of
balance. Then, I know myself to be a clear channel for Spirit.
5. Require an
exchange -- It is admirable to have so open and giving a nature that
you want to do all your healing work without the consideration of any
remuneration. Always be willing to work with those who cannot afford to make any
offering. Turn not away those who are in financial straits. However, in the ebb
and flow of all nature there is an important truth--when energy goes out, energy
must return. If you want to test this, just exhale for a few minutes without
inhaling. Require an exchange from those with whom you work. This enables them
to feel as if they are contributing and generates the flow of return energy to
complete the cycle. The exchange does not have to be money, though money is the
most common exchange and very important to include. Other possibilities include
freshly canned vegetables, wild-crafted herbs, massages, flowers, hand-made
gifts, books, or specific prayer focus on your behalf, etc. Everyone has
something to give, even if it's only a big hug! An offering of tobacco is
traditional, in the Native-American way. Jesus said not to cast pearls before
swine. He instructed his disciples to shake the dust off their feet, and walk
away from situations where they were not honored. A workman is worthy of his
hire. If someone has asked you to help them, they have hired you and should
honor the dedication of your time on their behalf. This is not paying for God's
gift of healing, which is freely given. This is honoring the time of the
workman. There is a difference. In the "old days", healers and medicine workers
were supported by society. Those days may return but, for now, most healers who
make themselves available full time need financial assistance. You will probably
be no exception to this third-dimension rule. Of course, each healer must follow
their own discernment and some are strongly convicted that there should be no
exchange required. If this is your strong conviction then, of course, you should
honor that path for yourself.
6. Respect the
fire -- Awakening the kundalini is a vital part of healing the whole
person. When we have our sexuality, sensuality and/or creative passions closed
down, we are only half alive. At some point in your work with others, the
healing of sexual issues will "rear it's ugly head", pun intended. It is
necessary to approach this area of healing work with the utmost clarity and
care. When in an altered state, it is quite easy for someone who has been
sexually repressed to mistake the opening of the kundalini as a sexual
attraction for the healer and, if the person is emotionally unbalanced to any
severe degree, it can even feel as if it is being initiated by the healer,
sexually, and directed toward them. It is vital to allow the energy to flow and,
at the same time, be alert enough to slow the process when needed. This gives
the person time to recognize that the change is organic and not just a feeling
associated with the person who is working with them. The idea is to encourage
healthy flow of sexual energies without unhealthy transference of misdirected
passions toward the healer. I have seen people try to deal with kundalini that
has been rapidly awakened--it is very difficult. I am of the feeling that our
challenges are numerous enough without adding the unnecessary energies of a
run-away sexual drive. The serpent must be wakened, I understand. I only caution
you to go gently and slowly. I definitely do not recommend using sex to heal
sexual issues. I believe this practice increases the chances of unhealthy
transference quite a lot, and in cases where there has been sexual abuse, feel
it has the potential to be more damaging than the initial trauma. Every
psychologist knows the danger of intimate involvement with someone when
entrusted with that person's mental and emotional welfare. You can be no less
aware, when working as a spiritual healer in the area of the base and second
chakras.
Having said that, I
will also say that almost everyone I've worked with needed sexual healing.
Working with a counselor with high integrity does not mean that these cellular
memories cannot be addressed for they certainly must be. It only means that they
do not require the actual introduction of physical, sexual interaction between
counselor and client, to be resolved. I also believe that oftentimes healing
sexual issues can be accelerated when we are able to be in relationship with a
lover who has understanding of healing in those areas. However, I will say again
that to establish a physical relationship for the sole purpose of reaching those
issues is putting the cart before the horse, in my opinion, and has great
potential to be harmful.
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